The Allen kids are back in school this week. Unlike times in the past, back to school is changing, especially for college students. The days of going to a brick and mortar school for the first year of college is no longer the only option. Is doing a non-traditional option, such as community college or even doing early college high-school a good option? We will tell you our opinion in this week’s podcast.
Book reviewed: College (Un)Bound: The Future of Higher Education and What it Means for Students by Jeffrey J. Selingo. (2013).
Welcome to the 5th episode of Parenting in the Future Podcast with special guest, Fiona Allen! Fiona, our 13 year old daughter, joined us and gave us information about the apps all the teens are using, and told us her take on mental health, technology, and what it is like to be a teen. Chris reviewed the book, Age of Opportunity by Lawrence Steinberg and helped us better understand adolescent brain development. Kim responded to a quote image she read on Facebook that read:
Nostalgic Parenting Judgement
My curfew was lightening bugs. (OK–works for younger kids probably more than teens)
My parents didn’t call my cell, they yelled my name. (Too much to say about this; better listen to the podcast)
I played outside, not online. (Did you have friends from all over the world? Do you want your children to have 21st century tech skills? Do you struggle, like we do, to have appropriate boundaries for your teen and their technology use?)
If I didn’t eat what mom cooked, I didn’t eat. (First of all, that is sexist. Second, my mom cooked with a whole lot of lard and bacon grease. Third, I’m happy we all share in the food prep. Last, I hope I’m more respectful to my kids than that).
With nostalgia aside, this really isn’t true for our family. In face, we embrace technology. Want to know more about all of our reactions? Listen in!
Fiona and her Dad doing a podcast. She’s a typical teen in that she didn’t want her picture taken. This is the compromise.
Fiona’s one and only time wearing a dress. It is a COSPLAY costume from her beloved Anime.
One of the joys of parenting: podcasting with my kid.
One of the frustrations of parenting: hearing my child’s cell phone go off every 2 seconds during the podcast.
This week we interview our daughter, Sofia Allen. Sofia shares her opinion about life as an Allen kid and talks about her Wildly Important Goals (WIGS) and her New Year’s Resolutions. We all talk about the Allen Family New Year’s Resolutions, including more balance in our non-nutritional use of technology and food.
Sofia and Fiona signing a book with Muriel Summers, AB Combs principal and the person that introduced us to WIGS.
It is no secret that compatibility is really important for a healthy relationship. The misnomer that opposites attract has gotten lots of us in trouble, so I was really curious to see just how compatible my husband’s character strengths are with mine.
I LOVE a good survey, and the VIA Character Strengths survey was a fun self-learning activity. I wasn’t, however, so sure that my dear husband would be so eager for a little self-reflection. Being the good guy he is, he agreed to take the survey. He agreed on one condition—I couldn’t peek at his screen as he went through the questions. He also made it clear that he didn’t need my help, so I sat by quietly letting him do his thing. Once he was done, he was ready for us to compare notes.
Not to toot my own horn, but that’s right…4 our of 5 of our core strengths are the same! Research shows that when people pick partners that share values and interests, they are happier in their relationships. No wonder we have made it 17 years and are going strong!
Even bus rides are fun in Hawaii!
I’m pretty sure that if we had completed a movie genre compatibility survey we might not have been ranked as compatible. I’ll watch a Sci-Fi film to make him happy and he’ll happily surf the web next to me as I watch realty TV, but it turns out we are not compatible in all things. That is human. There are lots of couples that are highly compatible that have very different strengths. At the crux of a happy relationship is shared our values and interests. I was pleased to see that our character strengths lined up so well, and I think that speaks to our shared values.
What does this mean to me? I’m not sure there is research specifically about this, but I’m pretty sure it means that we are compatible and that I made a good choice 17 years ago. More importantly, though, it means that we are both making choices every day to make our relationship a priority and that over the past 17 years, we have grown closer and possibly more alike. And taking the VIA Character quiz with my husband was fun—it created a romantic moment and helped us feel connected.
Kim and Chris talk about their muscles; mental muscles, that is! In this episode, we learn about Kim and Chris’ expertise: parenting, relationships, technology, and family coaching. They talk about smart phones and children, life balance wheel, and happy relationships.
Kim and Chris talk about their experiences of bullying in response to the CDCs new definition of bullying; healthy relationships and using empathy as a way to get along; and they introduce themselves and talk about the goals of their new podcast.